And you have got what it takes.
You have to feel beautiful inside to feel beautiful outside. You have to be able to say, “I like me,” before anybody else says I like you. Take it from anonymous who said, “Before you like me, I like me.”
Do you know that it really doesn’t matter what everybody says about you; what really matters is what you say about yourself? We can learn about this concept again from Jesus, the greatest teacher of all times. So let us pick up His brain and learn from what He said.
From the book of Mark chapter 8 verses 27 to 30 in New International Bible version and it says, “Jesus and His disciples went on to the villages around Caesarea Philippi. On the way He asked them, “Who do people say I am?” They replied, “Some say John the Baptist; others say Elijah; and still others, one of the prophets.” “But, what about you?” He asked. “Who do you say I am?” Peter answered, “You are the Messiah.” Jesus warned them not to tell anyone about Him.”
And in Amplified Bible version same passage says, “Then Jesus and His disciples went out to the villages of Caesarea Philippi; and on the way He asked His disciples, “Who do people say that I am?” They answered Him, “John the Baptist; and others say Elijah; but others, one of the prophets.” And He asked them, “But who do you say that I am?” Peter replied to Him, “You [in contrast to the others] are the Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed).” Then Jesus strictly warned them not to tell anyone about Him.”
Forget about what she said, or they said …and so on. What do you say? What do you tell yourself all the time? What do you tell yourself when the negative critic within you arises to make you feel low and smaller when it tells you, ‘ooh..you can’t do that, ooh..you ain’t that good,’ and all that pessimistic things sometimes it suggests? What do you do and tell yourself when you face destructive and negative criticism from other people?
Not every criticism is constructive, some are meant to squash and restrict you, in a way to stop you to improve or do better and moving ahead to achieve something of worthwhile.
This is what I tell myself when I face criticism in those uninspiring days, hahaha; “I write the best stuff! What you’re talking about..eh.. God has equipped me and I was born to do this; it has got my name on it! I can do this and I have got what it takes.” Then I calm down, and say, “All is well, nothing has been broken, and everything is going to be alright.” Then I let it slide, pass, and leave to the left or to the right depending on which side of the ear it entered in, or side of the brain it came from.
You see, we don’t want to loose focus, or stop believing, or let those negative criticism and destructive thoughts stay permanent with us.
There are times I will also handle criticism and negativity in a good attitude and manner…hahaha. I will respond by speaking up scriptures that I have memorized, and it depends which one will come out during the time when my mind struggles to deal with the negative thoughts that have just entered in or arose from within. I will tell myself, “God you said with You all things are possible, so I believe with Your help I can do this.” Or I will say, “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me (Philippians 4:13 KJV) and “I take every thought captive to obey Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5 ESV).”
Sometimes I will listen and sing songs to help me focus on the positive things. Or I will read a good book, or go watch a good movie, or listen to teaching messages, call or talk to someone, or do something that has a positive influence to help me get out from focusing on the negative.
Have you ever shared a bed or room with someone who snores when asleep? And in order for you to be able to sleep well without hearing all the noise comes from snoring, you realize wearing earplugs is a must and necessary. So in order to focus on the positive and shut down the negative and destructive thoughts and criticism, you have got to put earplugs on each time. You have got to ignore them like you didn’t hear them, especially when you know they are no good for you, and they are there to destruct you. Each time that negative critic comes up, remember the concept of earplugs and put one on.
I was listening to Pastor Creflo Dollar one day, and he said another way you can stop yourself from thinking what you have been think is to count one to ten. Just stop thinking and count one to ten, and then stop and get yourself focus on something else. I tried this technique also, and it works.
The famous Louise Hay also has another best way of handling situations. She said the minute you face a problem, you stop and say, “All is well; everything is working out for my highest good, and out of this experience or situation, only good will come, and I am safe.” This will help you calm down long enough, for the Universe, for some us we say for God, to help you find solution to the so called problem. She also said, “When there is a problem, we don’t need to fix the problems so much, we need to fix our thinking and our attitude of how we respond to it, and then we get less and less, and when the solution comes, we say thank you.”
You have got to like yourself before anyone likes you. Though it’s good to have other people believe in you, but you have got to believe in yourself before anybody believes in you. You have got to also believe in God because He has the last say, and not your critics. And with God, everything is possible. Sometimes God believes in us and then we limit ourselves still by heeding to fear and listening to criticism.
God can make ways for you until your natural mind says, “What? I can’t believe what just happened; I thought this was possible, but not this possible. This is much bigger than I was believing for.” God can make ways that can blow up your mind; He is out of our league. In fact t is recorded in the Bible by prophet Isaiah in Isaiah chapter 55 verses 8 to 11 (Isaiah 55:8-9 Amplified Bible (AMP), “For My thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways My ways,” declares the Lord. “For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways and My thoughts higher than your thoughts.” “For as the rain and snow come down from heaven, and do not return there without watering the earth, making it bear and sprout, and providing seed to the sower and bread to the eater, so will My word be which goes out of My mouth; it will not return to Me void (useless, without result), without accomplishing what I desire, and without succeeding in the matter for which I sent it.”
Also we can learn from people with high self-confidence and esteem, and who are risk takers. If you study the lives of these people, most of the time have achieved a massive if not some kind of success in their lives. They have done great things, and one of the reasons is because they believed in themselves that they were well equipped to do some things, and went after them.
I don’t know if everyone is born with high self-confidence, self-believe, or self-esteem, but I know you can improve yourself to become one with high self-confidence, self-believe, and self-esteem. As we know, life challenges can make us or break us, depending on how we react on them. But people who believe in themselves, and God, and who have high self-confidence and believe that God has created them to live victorious most of the time they overcome these life challenges and use them to better themselves and become more successful.
Jesus said there are some things that are impossible with man, but with God, they are all possible. Things like walking on water for instance..hahaha. Please read Matthew 14:22-33 below for reference.
He also said several times in the Bible, “According to your faith, it will be done to you.” So if you have greatest faith like Lord Jesus to walk on water, or go to that extent, I am very sure you must have already done greater things so far in your life. But if you are like me, who have enough faith to live a good life, to live your dreams and achieve your goals, whatever they may be, for instance to help yourself and your family, do something for the society, do what you love and get highly paid for it, and so on, bravo for you too.
Not everybody believes they can do what you do and achieve what you have achieved, even after seeing what God has done for other people. When we limit ourselves, we also limit God. If God did for others, He can also help us too. The things you think are impossible are possible with God.
We have got to have faith first in God, that He is well able, and then believe in ourselves that we are well equipped by God to do this or that. He equipped others to do great things, He can also equip us.
Some of our fears and doubts in our lives are ridiculous, but thanks be to God, we have Him to help us overcome our fears and our own limitations.
We can learn from children. Children are great observers, courageous, and with great faith human beings. When they see adults do things, what do they do? They copy us, and basically learn from what we do.
Ladies, have you ever had one of your children wearing your shoes, and you looked at them and said, “What do you think you are doing little princess?” Have you ever had little children who offered to help you cook? Or opened up a book pretending to read the book even though you knew they couldn’t read, just because they saw you reading the book. And then you said, “Ooh…my baby, you want to read a book?” And then you decided to read him or her one story on the book he or she was pretending to read.
What do you think God does when He sees us trying to do things? Do you see Him giving us a helping hand, as our Father God? And saying, “This child of mine is doing her best, let Me help her.”
Again, Jesus said more than once, “According to your faith, it will be done to you.” Once you believe you can do it, you attract it, and it comes to you like a magnet. That is another God’s way of giving you a helping hand. Now, after that it’s all up to you, because faith requires and demands action. You have to take action by pursuing and going after it? Henry Ford’s quote says, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right.” So it’s all up to you.
I say, “Yes, we can do what God has called us to do. Yes, we can take care of ourselves and our family. Yes, we can love ourselves and others. Yes, we can change and improve our lives to become better than we are already are. Yes, we can start afresh and believe again. Yes, we can still pursue our goals and dreams, it’s never too late.”
What about you, what do you say or think? It doesn’t matter what I say, or they say; what do say about you? Then write it down, and then develop a strategic plan for you to take action.
Matthew 14:22-33Amplified Bible (AMP)
Jesus Walks on the Water
Immediately He directed the disciples to get into the boat and go ahead of Him to the other side [of the Sea of Galilee], while He sent the crowds away. After He had dismissed the crowds, He went up on the mountain by Himself to pray. When it was evening, He was there alone. But the boat [by this time] was already a long distance from land, tossed and battered by the waves; for the wind was against them. And in the fourth watch of the night (3:00-6:00 a.m.) Jesus came to them, walking on the sea. When the disciples saw Him walking on the sea, they were terrified, and said, “It is a ghost!” And they cried out in fear. But immediately He spoke to them, saying, “Take courage, it is I! Do not be afraid!”
Peter replied to Him, “Lord, if it is [really] You, command me to come to You on the water.” He said, “Come!” So Peter got out of the boat, and walked on the water and came toward Jesus. But when he saw [the effects of] the wind, he was frightened, and he began to sink, and he cried out, “Lord, save me!” Immediately Jesus extended His hand and caught him, saying to him, “O you of little faith, why did you doubt?” And when they got into the boat, the wind ceased. Then those in the boat worshiped Him [with awe-inspired reverence], saying, “Truly You are the Son of God!”