“To the angel of the Church in Laodicea write: These are the words of the Amen, the faithful and true witness, the ruler of God’s creation. I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other! So, because you are lukewarm—neither hot nor cold—I am about to spit you out of my mouth.” This is what is written in the Bible, in the Book of Revelation chapter 3 verse 14 to 16, reading from the New International Bible version ( Revelation 3:14-16 NIV).
And I am not sharing with you this Bible passage to scare you away…hahaha. Please be patient and continue to read so that you can read whatever else I have to say.
When I take a shower, I like my water to be lukewarm. I don’t want it to be cold, and I don’t want it to be hot, because I cannot handle really cold water, and I certainly cannot handle hot water. The reasons are because cold water gets me shivering a lot when I shower and before I get dress, and hello, hot water can burn your skin. So, when it comes to showering, lukewarm water is my best option.
From our Bible passage, “Amen” said regardless of whatever you choose, stick to it; if you choose cold, then commit to cold, if it is hot, then commit to hot, but do not be lukewarm. Now, if you can guess, then you will know that “Amen” is not talking about showering, or being biracial, and so on. It’s about commitment, making choices, and decisions in life.
But I have to say though, lukewarm is good, it’s comfortable, you can combine both cold and hot water at the same time, and yet refuse to commit to neither one. It also implies you have so many options, and because of that you don’t have to tolerate things, and anytime you can choose to get out of a situation, or sign out, and choose or decide something else. It’s simple; there is no commitment that can tie you to stick around….right? Besides, you don’t know what you want, and you haven’t made up your mind yet to decide to stay or not.
I am sure you have been to a wedding before, to see two people who made a decision to become one. Somehow my favorite part of the wedding lately has been on the vows especially the line that says, “For better or worse till death do us apart.” Though they are only few words, I found them to be very powerful and to be carrying heavy responsibilities. No wonder so many of us are not married yet, or never settled down before, or move from one breakup or divorce to another. How many of you do not want the commitment of a relationship but want the benefit that comes with it? Mmh…don’t raise your hands now…hahaha.
And are you that kind of person who likes to have one foot inside the door and the other foot outside just in case anything happens you have an option to stay or go away? Well, myself also, I am one of these persons. Not on the marriage subject though..hahaha, but in some other areas and aspects of life. And yes, I am doing my best to change, or else I wouldn’t have written this today. It’s part of my confession, and also it’s part of my journey to learning to commit everyday in different aspects of life.
Bruce Lee has this famous quote that says, “I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.”
From my own experiences I have come to realize that having too many options in life can be quite damaging and time wasting. I mean, let me paraphrase that again. It’s very good to have too many options, but it becomes worse if you practice all of the options and then yet you do not commit to neither one. This can be in your career life, relationship-wise, and the rest of aspects of life.
There are few tips that have been helping me in my journey to making decisions and learning to commit to things, and they are as follows;
- Almost everything has pros and cons.
What has been helping me to be able to commit in some things is that I have come to realize no matter what path in life I may decide to take, there are going to be challenges and benefits. It doesn’t matter what it is; where there is a reward, penalty is there also. When you make a commitment to something, there are always going to be pros and cons, advantages and disadvantages. So choose wisely and commit to it, and be willing to take the challenges and paying the price because of the decisions you make. This brings to our second tip.
- Choose Wisely.
I have realized that even though I may have several options, but which one is good for me. What is it I want? When you know what you want, and the outcome you want to get, it’s easy to commit.
For instance in the Bible; in the book of Deuteronomy chapter 30 verse 19, it says that “I call heaven and earth to witness against you today, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and curse. Therefore choose life, that you and your offspring may live.”
The funny thing is that, if you choose life, you will be somehow persecuted, and if you choose death, you will also be persecuted. Whatever you choose, you will be persecuted, so choose what is best for you. I mean, when I became a born-again Christian, I thought my life was going to have lesser problems. God was going to answer all my prayers immediately and all my problems will be fixed and go away one at a time. My friend, there are persecutions in being a born-again Christian, perhaps thousand times more than if you were an atheist. It says in the book of Matthew chapter 5 verse 10 that, “Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness’ sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.”
But when you make a decision, and you know this is a wise decision for you, then it becomes easy to commit to it. And when those persecutions come, at least you know you are being persecuted because you made such and such a decision, and this is part of the price you have to pay to get the rewards.
So, if you married someone and you came to find out that the package isn’t perfect like you thought to be, what do you do? Are you going to stick to your vow and continue to commit, or are you going to opt out? I guess this depends on what you think is missing or has changed. This brings to our third tip.
- Expect change, because it is automatic, and sometimes a must.
It’s part of growth and life. People change, technology change, how we do things change, economic change, our bodies change. The woman you married 50 years ago is not going to have that young and firm body today. Do you get my point? When you married your husband ten years ago, he had so many pesos, but today not even one coin; it’s called the ups and downs, and status change. There were times it was only paper format books, nowadays you can read and listen to an entire book on your cell phone. So, expect change, and if it is something you cannot change to favor you, then you can learn to embrace it, or seek support and help to resolve it.
- Make a decision to commit.
And stick to it even when is in it’s highest or lowest point, or you feel the love and motivation is gone…hahaha. It’s about making a decision, sticking with it and hold yourself accountable. If you can get somebody else to hold you accountable, you might as well hold yourself accountable. For example; you want people to commit and come to your website to read, listen, or watch your blog posts every week, and yet you haven’t made a decision to commit yourself to them and to your blog by posting something regularly to make them come back to your website every week. It doesn’t make sense, right?
One reason why most people are unsuccessful to reaching their goals is indecisiveness. We keep changing our minds; maybe this is not what we want. You tell yourself, “I am going to pursue this thing, and another thing, so that when one of them doesn’t work or fails, I will have a plan B.”
In the Bible, in the book of Proverbs chapter 16 verse 3 (Proverbs 16:3 NIV), it says that, “Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and He will establish your plans.” And I can speak for myself, and my own experiences. Once I made decisions to do some things in life and asked God to help me, and committed them to Him, I can honestly say, I have seen God represents me with people, circumstances, and whatever else I needed in order to help me bring them into reality. Not all the time though, but most of the time, or several times.
So, make a decision to commit to something today. You can start by one small thing; it doesn’t have to be very big decisions and commitments. For example; I have frequently readers, and subscribers who are so committed to hear from me every week. And for a while now, I have been blogging and posting on my website twice a week, and just recently, I have made a decision to get more serious, and start posting on my website and blog three times a week. Yours can be something else, but regardless what it is, in the beginning you are going to feel nervous and doubtful, perhaps you are going to miss here and there, but don’t worry about it, just keep committing, and soon or later it will become a habit and routine that you cannot resist, and also natural for you to do and practice. And guess what? The more you practice and commit to it, the better you become at it. I am telling you from my own perspective and experiences, so yours can be different.
There were times when I was in college, I was a full-time student taking four classes a semester, and at the same time worked two jobs to make ends meets. It was not a joke, but I needed the money. It is one of those circumstances that you had to commit to things you do not like to do because you have other responsibilities needed to be care of. To be honest, I really worked hard on these jobs because they both paid me, but, perhaps my commitment was to make sure I got paid, but I didn’t do these jobs wholeheartedly, and I was burnout most of the time.
So, can you commit to multiple things at a time? Yes, you can. You can be a husband, father, brother, uncle, friend, neighbor, and let’s say a teacher, at the same time. Even if each role is different, it is still possible to commit yourself to each role. It’s all about making decisions and deciding to commit to your decisions, and willing to pay the price that comes with making those decisions.
Making a decision to commit to something is on of the steps you may need to take in order to become successful and effective in all your endeavors.
Do you also have commitment issues that you would like to share? Sometimes sharing it, helps figure out things. Please feel free to join the discussion.