Let’s Talk About Self-Esteem


What is Self-Esteem? There are many definitions about Self-Esteem on Google search, but the one I found useful and has resonated with me says, “Self-Esteem is how we value ourselves; it is how we perceive our value to the world and how valuable we think we are to others. Self-esteem affects our trust in others, our relationships, our work, and nearly every part of our lives.” UCDMC. UCDavis.Edu

Self-Esteem is more of an inner than an outer work that we need to work on ourselves perhaps daily in order to improve and increase our awareness on how we perceive our self-worth and value. There are so many things out there that can break our Self-Esteems, and drop from being positive and high, to low-self esteems.

Just like anybody else who had been broken before to the point you start questioning your self-worth, I also had been there myself. But thanks to Jesus, He has caught me several times in my lowest points of my life and picked me up to remind me that I am very valuable to God regardless of my circumstances, environments, and so on. When I saw worse in myself, or when I tried to compare myself with others to validate my self-worth, He reminded me, in God’s eyes I am always special. I don’t need those things to validate myself value.

Imagine how most parents feel the first time they held or saw their new-born child. To them, they saw new precious and special being, something of value to them that they need to take care of.

In the Bible, in the book of Luke chapter 12, reading from verse 6 to 7, and Jesus said, “Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? Yet not one of them is forgotten by God. Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.”

Can you imagine that God knows how many hairs each of us has on our heads? It’s amazing.

With the world where it is going, I think we need to be reminded of our self-worth more often.

1. Beauty is an inside thing, so as your Self-Worth

We are neither our hair, face, our front and back, you know what I mean, nor our nose, legs, and so on. Those are a fraction part of our bodies. So, if you don’t like that one tiny part of your body, whether it is according to our societies view, or our own perceptions, that little part shouldn’t determine how you see your entire self-worth or value. Our societies sometime can mislead us about so many things. One of them is to think beauty is an outside thing.

Beauty is an inside thing. If you don’t feel beautiful inside you will have a hard time to feel beautiful outside even with the help of plastic surgery. You will always feel that you are not good enough, beautiful enough, something need to be changed on your body, and so on. You will feel like you need to be on trend always, like as if your body is your closet.

So, you will keep working on your outside, but the real problem you need to work on is inside. Inner beauty is true beauty; the outside is just the compliment.

I know a very few good looking people with snobbiest attitudes like as if the entire world revolves around them, and that itself I think make them look unattractive and definitely uglier than they actual look. But I also know a very few people whom are way below what societies think of beauty when it comes to their appearances, but because of how they carry themselves, how well they treat themselves and other people, and the way they live, you will admire them. Truly, their inner beauty will radiate inside out, and it will change you how you see them, and how you see this overall concept of beauty and self-worth.

But then again, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. So, if God, the Beholder says, ‘we are worth to Him,’ then why are we devaluing ourselves?

2. Your Net-Worth is not Your Self-Worth

Imagine God is saying, “Hello World, as from today, only the wealthiest and the ones with more money and more assets are only valuable, worthy, and have rights to be my children.”

Money comes and goes. Even if money stays for a long-while, the fact remains your net-worth is not your self-worth.

Let’s say you were a millionaire in dollar currency last year, and then somehow you spent it unwisely, and this year you found out you don’t even have ten thousand dollars worth of assets, and the money in your bank accounts are all zero balance. My question to you is that ‘should your self-worth change now that you are down to zero?’

In many societies, even though money can make you more reputable and give your more privilege, but it should never determine your self-worth. You want to know why?

Let’s read from the Bible, in the book of Luke chapter 20, verse 20 to 25, and it says, “Keeping a close watch on Him, they sent spies, who pretended to be sincere. They hoped to catch Jesus in something He said, so that they might hand Him over to the power and authority of the governor. So the spies questioned Him: “Teacher, we know that you speak and teach what is right, and that you do not show partiality but teach the way of God in accordance with the truth. Is it right for us to pay taxes to Caesar or not?” He saw through their duplicity and said to them, “Show Me a denarius. Whose image and inscription are on it?” “Caesar’s,” they replied. He said to them, “Then give back to Caesar what is Caesar’s, and to God what is God’s.” They were unable to trap Him in what he had said there in public. And astonished by his answer, they became silent.”

One, when you leave this earth, you are not going to take your billion dollars with you to afterlife. Money is just a tool that we use here on earth to better our lives and live our purposes, but I don’t think when it’s gone, we should be gone too. I recommend you read, “Men Make Money, and Not Vice Versa.”

Two, have you ever heard people who have lots of money but still not reputable and less privilege? Perhaps because the way they earn their money, use and spend their money in worthless cause and things.

There are great people like Mother Theresa for instance; I mean, she may not have billion of dollars in her bank accounts, but what an exceptional great woman!

So, we can use money to improve our lives, create more value with it, and also to make the world a better place. But how much money we have shouldn’t determine our self-worth.

Seriously, whether we have lots of money or not, it shouldn’t determine our self-worth. When we are gone, we are gone; but when money is gone, we are not, so we can always create or make it again.

We can go on and on. Our self-worth is not our gender, color, race, nationality, our problems, formal or informal education, and et cetera. Those are just factors societies have placed to affect our self-worth and self-esteem if we are not careful.

Who we are, what is important to us, and how we should live, it really depends on us and the way we see ourselves. Societies have their levels, but God is the highest level. If you want to raise your bars, then find out what God has to say about you, and use that as a measure.

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