I come from a big family. From same Mom and Dad, we are six and I am a fifth born child. I have three older sisters, one older brother, and one younger brother. But then years later my parents got divorced, and both got re-married again. So, I also have one half brother, one half sister, one step sister, and four step brothers. I never thought my family would be expanding this way. Sometimes in life things happen to break up families so that they could unite with other families. That’s one of the ways to look at it.
Anyway, when I first found out that I am now a grown up young girl, it was one of my older sisters who sat me down and gave me my first serious lecture about puberty, sex, and boys. I mean, I was taught in school about it, but when the first time it happened to me, it was my sister who saw me and also thought there was a need to discuss about it with me. She was also the one who gave me my first iPad.
When I was a young girl most of my neighborhood friends were boys. I thank God; I am more girly and feminine now. It was during school break, I was at home outside playing with my neighborhood friends that day; we were bicycling actually. And I was thirsty so I came inside the house to get water, and my sister saw what was on my pants, and therefore confronted me.
But off course later on my Mom found out I have grown up, therefore she also had one and one discussion and lecture with me. Even though I felt it was a little bit harder for my Mom to have that conversation with me than it was for sister, but she made sure I understood why it’s important to have that conversation with her.
So, I am reminded during that time as I write this. I feel like this topic about bad company corrupts good character is one of those topics we must talk and discuss about even though it can appear to be offensive to others.
I am not here to brag that I am perfect with lots of good characters. Hahaha, nobody is perfect my friend. Only God is perfect.
In fact there was this period in my life long time ago before I became a born-again Christian that I almost became alcoholic. I was drinking above average and I was parting and going to night clubs more frequently. It reached a point I had to ask myself, “What happened to me? How did I get here? Because it really was not the direction I wanted to continue living and kept entertaining.”
And since nobody can influence you without your permission, I knew that one of the reasons why I went that far and down that direction was my own fault, because I kept allowing or permitting it. Another reason was because I was hanging around with bad companies. And I was letting them influencing me. I knew it was time to cut the influences, connections, including the company that was feeding this life style that I was living that I did not like.
In the Bible in 1 Corinthians chapter 15 verse 33 reading from New International version it says that “Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” The same passage in English Standard Bible version it says, “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”
If you are not strong, or do not know better, or do not have values, good morals, and boundaries that you have established for yourself to live by, bad company can corrupt you.
It is very important to look at the people in your life and ask yourself – what is this relationship doing to me?
You also need to evaluate the information and knowledge that you are feeding yourself every day and ask yourself what good it will bring me. Is it useful? Is it here to construct or destruct my life and my direction?
Experts say you are an average of 5 people you spend most time with. Whether at home, or at work, or online, or through books…hahaha, you get my point. Basically, you become like the people you spend most time with. They are the ones influencing you at some point. When you spend time with these people, there is a chance you may act, behave, and think like them. Therefore it’s very important to look at the people in your circle. There is this saying that says, “Every person is either a product or victim of their upbringing.”
The famous Tony Robins said, “The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the quality of your relationships.”
There is a need to for us to surround ourselves with quality people.
We need to surround ourselves with like minded people; people just like us who also want to change to become better people and improve the quality of their lives.
We need to surround ourselves with smart people. Because smart people who are already successful usually have innate desires to help those who want to be successful like them.
Good and nourishing relationships will always inspire you, want the best for you, and will bring the best out of you.
We also need to surround ourselves with great people. It’s important to read articles, read and listen to books, also teaching podcasts and YouTube videos that have been created and published by people who have mastered whatever areas we are interested in to better ourselves. We can also join support groups provided in our communities that can help us succeed in whatever area in our lives we want to succeed.
We can also find ourselves good mentors to follow their examples and learn from them. I have so many mentors, and my favorite of them all is Jesus. He is more than a mentor to me of course. Most of my mentors they don’t know me. But I know them through reading their books and listening to their teachings.
I was listening to the famous Les Brown YouTube video the other day and he said that according to this study he heard about, you earn within two to three thousand dollars of your closest friends. So, if you are the smartest one in your group, you need to get a new group. I was shocked when I heard this. Does this mean the reason someone is broke is because most of her or his closest friends are broke? Mmh…interesting to know.
We can then agree that the opposite is also totally true. Good company influences bad company. But the thing is, you can’t change people when they don’t want to change. You only drain yourself when you try to change someone who doesn’t want to change.
One of the best ways you can effectively change the world is by changing yourself first. And when other sees the change in you, they may want to change themselves too.
So, do not be deceived; bad company corrupts good character.
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