One day I was at home, inside the house, and my younger brother, about four years younger than me was playing soccer with some neighborhood kids outside. Some of those kids were also my friends and of the same age. I was about 12 years old I think. But then, I heard loud cheering noises these kids were making like there was a big fight outside. So I went outside to see what was going on. I don’t remember the transformation and how exactly it happened, or how I got the strength all over the sudden. I just couldn’t bear seeing this kid bulling my younger brother. All I remember was that I went there, without even asking questions or thinking about it, and fought that kid like in the Old Testament style to the point where that day every kid in that street and other neighboring streets knew about it. I went back home inside the house a hero that day. I am not a violent person by nature, actually I am quite the opposite, but a few times in my life in the past I have asked myself why did I jump and fought that kid that day even though I knew he could have beaten me badly? And what if it was somebody else and not my brother who was in that fight, would I have done the same thing?
I have always been interested in being a leader not necessary by a title, and my first time for me to find out that I was somehow an underground leader or being a leader is somehow in my DNA, is when I finally began to understand why I was doing the many things that I was doing for instance, things that didn’t benefit me at all but just because I thought I could offer help or solutions to some people when they needed them even though I knew they couldn’t pay me back if they could or wanted too.
And to be honest, I haven’t held a position in a higher level of management before. Most of my leadership skills I learned them through various leaders, from the people God has placed in my life, that some of them I got a chance to meet in person. I have shared a little bit of my experiences in Servant Leadership. These people have had some kind of leadership influence on me, and I happened to adapted them by observation through being or working with them directly or in-directly from a far. Some of these leaders truly have shown me what it takes to be a good and effective leader in various levels of leadership and management roles, whether it was at work, or home, or Church, et cetera. Not only through their achievements and management styles, even through the few mistakes they have made, there was always something for me to learn from them about leadership.
Even though there is always a reward in any type of management level job position, whether it is power, money reward, growth, and advancement in ones skills, more knowledge, and better life experiences, or the satisfaction and joy of solving problems and overcoming challenges it brings, but one should not seek becoming a leader for personal interests and gains only. We have seen a few of those famous political leaders for instance, who became leaders to gain power and end up abusing it to the point not only destroyed their reputations, but also destroy their nations, and many people lives.
There is so much involved in leadership, but there is this one thing that is a must to know, ‘being a leader means willing to learn as much as willing to lead.’ You must be willing to constantly learn if you want to be a good and highly effective leader, especially when you have so many number of people who look up to you. You need to learn things in order to help those people around you and in your life, so that you can be able to find out solutions and able to offer them what they need and perhaps better solutions. When you have people relying on your decision making, critical thinking, and problem solving skills, it’s not a joke. When you are a leader you are constantly making decisions that impact other people lives, not necessarily only for your nation, or your company, or your family, etc.
In order to be a highly effective leader, you must be willing to learn and understand many things, including the people you are leading. Leadership is also about building relationships because your success will depend on the quality of your relationships with those you lead. It has been said that the only way to have a great team is to be a great leader. In other words a great team doesn’t create a great leader; but it is a great leader who creates a great team. As a leader, you are the one who is supposed to see the full vision, and help others participating along. In the Bible in the book of Luke chapter 6 verse 39, Jesus said,”Can the blind lead the blind? Will they not both fall into a pit?
Not everybody is born with natural leadership attributes, but that doesn’t mean leadership cannot be learned. So relax, if you are also interested in being a good leader someday and you think it doesn’t come natural to you. If you ask me, whether you were born with natural leadership attributes or not, to be a highly effective leader, you need to be willing to learn continuously so that you can be in a position to help others, and lead others to better destinations.
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