We all at some point have experienced both of these habits, the habit of complaining and the habit of gratitude, and their impacts in our lives. Therefore we can agree these two habits usually are in conflict with each other; one produces negative outcomes, while the other habit always brings about positive outcomes.
When we complain a lot about our situations often enough we express self-pity, anger, resentment, disappointments, frustration, lack, fear, worry, strife, jealousness, envy, doubt, we become miserable, short-sighted or lack of foresight, and et cetera.
On the other hand, when we are grateful we often experience and express hope, faith, love, abundance, peace, calmness, confidence, we become more focused, farsighted, filled with positive energy, and greater expectations.
So we can see how both of these habits have power to control our moods, actions, and outcomes. One of them is set to destruct or destroy, while another to construct or build, and help us to set right our anchors.
We are constantly in a battle between these two habits. In the end we all get to choose each time which habit should we learn to adapt and develop daily in our lives. So let’s analyze both these habits to see why the habit of gratitude is the best option for us.
- Gratitude prepares us for abundance
When we complain we set ourselves up for limited and negative thinking. When we complain a lot our minds usually are in tune with all sorts of negative things we have mentioned above.
Rarely do we succeed when we act out of anger, and I am talking about a bad anger. There is a good anger, but there is also a bad anger. A good anger could be for example; you are so angry that you have allow negative people and circumstances to influence your life major decisions, so you are angry because you want to get your life together and start afresh with a new good mindset and outlook, new good habits, and surround yourself with positive influences. On the contrary there is a bad and destructive anger that if we take action toward it can cause damage to ourselves as well as other people.
When we complain our minds are filled with all negative patterns that can hinder us to respond well to our circumstances, especially the negative circumstances.
When I am frustrated, I really do not want to talk to anyone. For the period I am frustrated, it can be few seconds, few minutes, and sometimes hours, it depends with the situation really. Usually when I am really frustrated and angry, my mind would be in a war trying to figure out my defense position through complaining and imagining the worse without even opening my mouth. ‘Why me,’ ‘why that,’ ‘what can I do victim mentality,’ ‘I don’t need to put up with this,’ and blablabla.
I have learned nowadays through my journey with the help of the Holy Spirit of God to ask for His help immediately, to help me focus on something positive until the frustration and anger disappear.
Our minds are our battlefields for our thoughts. The battle starts within our minds. It’s an ongoing battle of the mind, and there is a better way to fight the battles within our minds.
We can learn to develop the habit of gratitude and positive mindedness, because when we do that we will begin to see daily miracles happening, small or big it will be according to our faith, and expectations. Things begin to change when we shift our mindsets to express gratitude and become positive minded people.
When we have a habit of gratitude we set ourselves for abundant thinking and mentality. We set ourselves for limitless thinking and possibilities. I wish I knew about this really long-time ago. Often times we wait until things are really bad in our lives and situations to take the initiatives. But sometimes the best way to learn is through our experiences.
The habit of gratitude is a game changer. It can transform your lack to good luck. Maybe you thought you had small, but when dig deep through gratitude, you find out ‘man, I am so blessed.’ I never thought I was this blessed.
I urge you to start writing down things you are grateful for every day, at least one thing. But we usually have more to be grateful for everyday, don’t we? And if you want to see the abundance, then be specific on the things you are grateful for, because the details make it more interesting regardless how small they are. To give you a few examples you can say; “I am thankful today, I was able to drink two cups of tea masala, with no destructions.” “I am thankful today, I got a free parking very close to grocery store entrance door.” “I am so grateful today this morning I weighed myself and found out I have lost 3 pounds. I now weigh 120 pounds.”
When we are grateful, our minds are fixed on abundance and possibility. Our moods are changed from negative to positive emotions and energy. We become hopeful, calmer, peaceful, and filled with faith. Our minds become stable and more focused, which in turn put us in good position to think better, make wiser decisions, and so on.
- Gratitude prepares us for favor
If you want to attract favor, opportunities, and all good things you can think of, you need to get yourself on the gratitude gear.
This is what Jack Canfield said; “The law of attraction states that whatever you focus on, think about, read about, and talk about intensely, you are going to attract more of it into your life.” In other words, ‘like attracts like.’ That is an eye-opener right there.
But I also know, sometimes there is such thing as opposite attraction. It’s possible for someone to attract an opposite personality for instance. I know about this mainly through relationship area. It’s possible for someone to be attracting someone totally different than him or her because of the way they behave, their characters, looks, because of their intelligence, or material possessions, and so on. I know… another subject for another time. True relationships are built on the rock. If the foundation and basis of your relationship is not strong enough, or built on wrong things, there is a chance for the relationship to not last as long it should last.
But according to the law of attraction, you attract what you think and focus on most of the time. It means if you focus on lack, that’s what you will get. On the contrary, if you focus on the abundance, it means that is what you will attract. Successful people think about success most of the time. Successful people are focused on what they want to achieve.
So if the habit of gratitude helps us to get focused on abundance, on positive mindedness, on positive affluences, then the law of attraction says we will attract those things. Therefore, the key here is to work on our mindsets. The law is the law, we cannot change it, especially if it’s part of God’s mystery. But we can change our mindsets, what to focus on, to favor us, to get the things we desire for, ask for, believing for, hope for, and et cetera.
Now we know the habit of complaining will not get us anywhere. One of our goals everyday should be to work on changing this habit, by replacing it with the habit of gratitude. Basically, when we start complaining, immediately we need to start working on how we can shift our focus. We can decide to be grateful instead. We can decide to give thanks, have faith, and focus on the positive perspective, or on what we have been blessed with so far. Whatever works for you really; you can pray, read a book, meditate on something good, listen to music, or get outside for a walk and fresh air.
In the Bible in the second book of Corinthians chapter 10 from verse 3 to 5, reading from the Amplified Bible translation, Apostle Paul said, “For though we walk in the flesh [as mortal men], we are not carrying on our [spiritual] warfare according to the flesh and using the weapons of man. The weapons of our warfare are not physical [weapons of flesh and blood]. Our weapons are divinely powerful for the destruction of fortresses. We are destroying sophisticated arguments and every exalted and proud thing that sets itself up against the [true] knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought and purpose captive to the obedience of Christ.”
He also said in the book of Philippians chapter 4 verse 8 that, “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable, if anything is excellent or praiseworthy, think about such things.”
A heart of gratitude leaves no room for complaining. And truth is we all have so much to be grateful for. When we are grateful it’s a sign that we trust God and cast our cares, and worries, and struggles to Him. We trust that He is in control and He cares for us. As Christians, we are taught to praise and give thanks to God constantly.
For example the book of Psalm chapter 103 verse 1 to 5 it says, “Bless the Lord, O my soul, and all that is within me, bless His Holy Name! Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all His benefits, Who forgives all your iniquity, Who heals all your diseases, Who redeems your life from the pit, Who crowns you with steadfast love and mercy, Who satisfies you with good so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.”
In the first book of Thessalonians chapter 5 verse 18, it also says, “Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.”
And the book of Ephesians chapter 5 verse 20 says, “Giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ,”
The book of Psalm chapter 100 is well known as the psalm for giving grateful praise, and it says; “Shout for joy to the Lord, all the earth. Worship the Lord with gladness; come before Him with joyful songs. Know that the Lord is God. It is He Who made us, and we are His; we are His people, the sheep of His pasture. Enter His gates with thanksgiving and His courts with praise; give thanks to Him and praise His name. For the Lord is good and His love endures forever; His faithfulness continues through all generations.”
Those are just few Bible scriptures and passages. There must be a benefit in praising and giving thanks to God. Even when we feel like maybe He has forgotten us and our needs, but then decide to praise and thank Him anyway for other things He has done in our lives, after we pray, praise, and thank God, it usually frees us. We somehow are able to let go of our negative emotions or whatever was troubling us, and it helps us to realize even though our situations have not changed but our hearts and minds have. The negative energy has disappeared; we are now calm, and able to look at things in a different perspective.
God is able to change our situations, circumstances, but He is also able to change our hearts and minds to remain positive and focused on the good side while we are waiting to receiving God’s instructions, solutions, and answers to our problems. There is a power in our thanksgivings to God. A grateful heart is an attractive heart.
I have also shared this equation before, according to Jack Canfield, Event (E) plus (+) Response (R) equals (=) Outcome (O). Jack Canfield calls it a formula that puts you in control of success E+R=O. Our outcomes will depend on how we respond to some of the events or situations in our lives. How we respond to our negative circumstances, experiences, setbacks, and you name it, is going to determine our outcomes. If we respond with a complaining mindset, there is a chance we’ll continue to be more disappointed with our outcomes. But if we respond with a grateful mindset, who knows chances things will turn around the way we want or expected them too.
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