There is this folktale about ‘The Two Travelers and The Farmer.’ There was a man who was travelling, and he came upon an old farmer hoeing in his field beside the road. Eager to rest his feet, and happy enough to straighten his back and talk for a moment. So, he asked the farmer, “What sort kind of people live in the next village? What are they like?” And the farmer answered the traveler; “What were the people like in the last village you visited? What were the people like where you’ve come from?” The farmer replied, “They were kind, friendly, generous, great people.” “Very well,” said the farmer. “You’ll find the people in the next village to behave the same.” And so the traveler left. Sometime later another travel, coming from the same direction, he also stopped to talk to the farmer. “What sort of people live in the next town?” he asked the farmer. Again the farmer asked, “What were the people like in the last village you visited?” The second traveler responded, “They were rude, unfriendly, dishonest people.” “Really?” said the farmer. “Well, you’ll find the same sort of people in the next town.” And the second traveler left. One day, the travelers met on the road, as they were sharing their experiences and began comparing notes, they realized the farmer they had met was kind of diplomatic on his answers. He only gave them the answers according to their own perceptions of how they viewed the world, the people, and their circumstances.
Even though it’s just a folktale, but there is a big lesson we can all learn from the farmer; our perception about life and others is very important. Meaning that, we can change our environments, locations, relationship to another relationship, and so on, but if we don’t change our perceptions about life, others, our attitudes, values, or prejudices, even if we move to another location or relationship or change jobs, but still carrying our old mindsets, then we will continue to view things the same, people the same, life the same. The farmer wanted to tell the travelers, changing one’s location only does little changes if you still continue to carry your old views of life, about people, if you still have same kind of old attitude, or mentality. Continue reading “Your Perception of Things Matter”