Not every man or woman you meet and you look at them and say oh well, this individual is fine…hahaha, is yours. Life is not design such a way; it is called infidelity. There is nothing wrong of getting your own; career, possessions, spouse, and so on. This is what I have been praying, is for God to give me my own. I don’t want nobody else’s stuff, man, or whatever. I want my own things; I want to have my own thing going on. By God’s grace when I get married, I don’t want to be a wife that depends on her husband for everything. He will have his own, and I’m going to have my own. I don’t expect him to shadow me, or him to be shadowed by me. I don’t want to be a woman whose identity is hiding behind her husband. I also have some dreams and goals of my own that I would like to accomplish them. I think this is a desire for every woman to find a confident man and spouse who will allow her to shine also. From what I have observed so far, some marriages have suffered because of power struggle. And I truly believe it doesn’t have to be that way. A husband is supposed to complement her wife, and the wife is supposed to complement her husband. In other words, God can bring you someone who has strengths where you happen to have weaknesses, and vice versa, so that when you are together, you complete, or complement each other.
In fact the Bible it says in the book of Genesis chapter 2 verse 18 that “Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper as his complement.” And then it continues in verses 19 to 25 “Out of the ground the Lord God made every animal of the field and every bird of the sky. He brought them to the man to find out what he would call them. And whatever the man called a living thing, that was its name. Adam gave names to all the cattle, and to the birds of the sky, and to every animal of the field. But there was no helper found that was right for Adam. So the Lord God put the man to sleep as if he were dead. And while he was sleeping, He took one of the bones from his side and closed up the place with flesh. The Lord God made woman from the bone which He had taken from the man. And He brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh. She will be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” For this reason a man will leave his father and his mother, and will be joined to his wife. And they will become one flesh. The man and his wife were both without clothes and were not ashamed.”
So there is someone out there for you that God designed to complement you. And I believe when you pray to God, He will help you to identify him, and make sure you meet. We also learn that God is the author of marriage institution, and the best matchmaker you can ever find…hahaha. And you don’t have to pay Him any fee; He does it out of love. Some Bible scholars also have been quoted as saying, God designed marriage to help us understand love and unity. They said even though it says ‘a man will leave his father and his mother, and will be joined to his wife. And they will become one flesh,’ but basically when two people are married, they don’t just become one physically, but spiritually and emotionally. Therefore, marriage is not something you need to jump to carelessly. You don’t want to be connected with someone intimately that you are not equally yoked. In the book of Amos chapter 3 verse 3 it says “Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?” Your marriage will continue to be strong, as long you continue to agree in your choices you make, and in the agreement.
That’s just one example in marriage life area. But we can also learn in other areas of life, for instance, when it comes to opportunities in our careers and businesses. Not every door that will open maybe for us. Not every door that glitters is suitable for us. Not all open doors are God’s doors that He opened for us. Some of the doors they maybe traps to get us distracted, diverted, or delayed from God’s plan He has for us. So you have got to be focused on your direction. Once you spot that the road has been leading you is not where you really want to go, turn around so that you align to the right direction where God wants or leads you to go. In order to be focused and succeed, you have to be very selective in which opportunities to take and proceed. Anytime when we are confused or we don’t know which way to go, we should seek God in prayer and read scriptures for guidance to get revelation and insight so that we won’t be misled. In the book of Isaiah chapter 48 verse 17 it says that “This is what the Lord says—your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel: “I am the Lord your God, Who teaches you what is best for you, Who directs you in the way you should go.” Instead of doing things out of the norm, let’s take time to ask and seek for directions and find out the plans God has for us.
So we need to do our research first and get clarity and a vision of where we are heading or trying to go. This is so awesome; God volunteers to help us if we seek Him for help. So we don’t have to be wanderers anymore. If its business, take time to pray, think, and write down in clarity your business mission and vision statement so you know the areas of your focus, so that you may not be distracted when wrong opportunities come your way. If it’s personal, do the same thing, get yourself a personal mission and vision statement to guide you on your core values and how you would like to live your life. Write it down somewhere easy to access, so each time you get confused, you can read to refresh yourself. We need to have crystal clear visions and goals of where we are trying to get to in life. We need to think about what we really want in our personal and professional life areas. For once we do that; it will help us in our decision-making on daily basis.
I wrote down my permission (personal mission) statement in 2016. It was wonderful just to be able to do it. I have now learned how important it is for me, to have an idea of how I want to live my life. It helps me escape the trap that others maybe going through. I’m not saying this technique may work for everybody, but it works for me. Many of us know that just because other people tried something and succeeded, it doesn’t mean when we try it also we have a guarantee to succeed. It’s a matter of finding and discovering what will work for us. Maybe that someone was graced to do it, and that’s why has succeeded, therefore, we also we need to find where and what we have been graced to do. We don’t have to live under other people’s shadows. We need to be confident in who we are. We are all unique, meaning that there’s not going to be another exactly us. So we might as well do our best to be the beautiful or handsome, and outstanding versions of us.
In the book of Matthew chapter 5 verses 15 and 16, the Lord Jesus said, “Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a basket. Instead, they set it on a lampstand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.” So many unique stars glitter to glorify God, let’s not be copycats. God wants other people to see His glory through us, in our own unique ways He has created and purposed us to be. Therefore let us shine to the world, and glorify our Father God.
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