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How to Make Peace with Your Setbacks

Abraham Lincoln said, “Do I not destroy my enemies when I make them my friends?”

So is it really possible to change your enemies into friends? Well, it’s possible by the grace of God; Jesus did it, and is still doing it today. In the book of Luke chapter 23 verses 33 to 35, it records “When they came to the place called the Skull, they crucified Him there, along with the criminals—one on His right, the other on His left. Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” And they divided up His clothes by casting lots. The people stood watching, and the rulers even sneered at Him. They said, “He saved others; let Him save Himself if He is God’s Messiah, the Chosen One.”

One thing I know for sure is that you can make peace with your enemies, forgive, and be good to them, but again it’s up to you and them to want to remain friends afterwards. In fact, as children of God, we are called to be peacemakers. In the book of Matthew chapter 5 verse 9, in New King James translation, it says “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God.”

I don’t who exactly who said this, ‘our setbacks are platforms for our comeback.’ Your setback is a setup for your comeback. If that is the case, then we need to make peace with them so that we can comeback bigger than before. Let’s find out how we can make peace with our setbacks so that we can find ways to continue to persevere and win regardless of the situations we are in.

  • Accept what you cannot change

This is so obvious, we learn about it in our lives every day. There are things in life we cannot change even if we may want too. You have to figure out if this setback is within or beyond my control. You have to figure out which one needs a miracle, and which one you really need to do something about it yourself. When you find out this is something you cannot change unless it’s a miracle, and then make peace with it. Accept it as it is, and pray to God to show you a better way out, or give you a miracle, or help you manage it as it is. Accept what you cannot change and do something about what you can change about yourself, and your life.

  • Change your perspective

Decide how you are going to view things. Change your perspective on how you respond to your setbacks. This is huge; this will determine whether you are fit for the challenge. You have got to set your mindset right in order to overcome your setbacks. Right believing is for right living. Look at the bigger picture, and start from there. Allow yourself to feel the emotions, but don’t forget to ask yourself questions like “What can I do to fix this?” or “How and what can I do to turn this situation better?” “How can I move forward?” “Will this even matter in few years from now?” There is this guy I dated for longer than a year, and trust me I must had really liked him..hahaha. When we broke up it took a little while to move forward, because he was the only guy I dated that I thought maybe we were going somewhere. I blamed myself for wasting my time, sharing my heart with him, and blablabla..hahaha. But when I changed my perspective and realized maybe it was for the better because God may have other plans for me in mind, I managed to move forward quickly. So change your perspective on things. Continue reading How to Make Peace with Your Setbacks